My Body Positive Journey and Love Letter To My Younger Self

When I posted this on TikTok it got the largest engagement that I've ever received to this date (see post here)

And at first I was lost as to why, because I honestly wrote it on a whim and didn't think twice when I posted it but I think that level of vulnerability was very well received.

My favourite thing was having younger girls message me and tell me how that post made them feel so seen and women that would message me telling that they had the boobs as me! 

Ironically, that made me feel seen as well. 🤍

So this blog post is for you, you whoever needs to read this, you who looks at their body and judges it every time and wishes parts of it where different. 

Society has taught women to hate their bodies for the own benefit, mostly for the benefit of men and having these conversation is how we start to take our power back. 

There’s something strangely vulnerable about talking openly about your body. Especially the parts of yourself you once spent years trying to hide.

For a long time, I hated how my boobs looked.

I hated that they sagged.
I hated that they didn’t look “perfect.”
I hated that they didn’t look like everyone else’s.

Growing up (in like 2010), it felt like there was only one version of what a woman’s body was supposed to look like. Perky. Symmetrical. Effortless. Anything outside of that felt wrong.

And when you’re a teenage girl already trying to figure out who you are, even the smallest differences can feel enormous.

The Changing Rooms I Never Felt Safe In

School changing rooms were honestly one of the places I dreaded most.

The pointing.
The laughing.
The comments disguised as jokes.

I remember feeling a knot in my stomach every single time I had to walk in there. That kind of shame settles into your body quietly. You don’t always realise how deeply it stays with you until years later.

What started as insecurity slowly became part of how I viewed myself altogether.

I carried that embarrassment into my early twenties. I genuinely believed my body was something to “fix” before it could be worthy of love from me.

Learning to See My Body Differently

Somewhere along the way, something began to shift.

I can’t pinpoint the exact moment it happened, but I started pouring into myself more intentionally. Slowing down. Healing. Speaking to myself with a little more softness.

And gradually, I started appreciating my body instead of constantly criticising it.

Not because it suddenly looked different, but because I began seeing it differently.

This body carries me through life.

It breathes.
It moves.
It holds joy, grief, anxiety, excitement, exhaustion and healing all at once.

How Seka Candles Became Part of My Healing

Oddly enough, creating nude torso candles became part of that journey too.

There’s something deeply healing about sculpting and celebrating the female form in all its softness and uniqueness. Every curve, every line, every variation reminds me that bodies are not supposed to look identical and that quite literally every body is different.

In many ways, Seka Candles became more than a business for me. It became a space where I could reclaim parts of myself I once felt ashamed of. Seeing customer buy the candles that reminded them of their own body, brings me a certain joy that I can never describe

This Is How I Sometimes Overcome When I'm Feeling Sh1tty About My Body - Practising Gratitude Instead of Shame

I still have moments where insecurity creeps in because no matter what they say healing isn’t linear.

But now, when I catch myself spiralling into criticism, I try to respond differently.

Sometimes I place my hands over the part of myself I’m criticising and quietly say:
“I love you.”

It sounds awkward. Maybe even cringe to some people. But it genuinely helps.

Because softness has healed me far more than shame ever did.

If You’ve Ever Felt “Wrong” In Your Body

This is for the people who dreaded changing rooms.
For the people who compared themselves constantly.
For the people still learning how to exist in their bodies with gentleness instead of criticism.

You are not failing at beauty because your body looks human.

And self-love doesn’t always arrive as confidence. Sometimes it starts as simply choosing not to be cruel to yourself anymore.

What is something you’re currently learning to cherish about yourself? 🤍